GUILT MANIPULATION, IS IT ABUSE?
A man was unable to hold a job, had a wife and two small children. I understand he suffered from depression and thus his reasoning for not being employed. (By the way, there are studies that show that working and being productive counteracts depression.) He was inconsiderate, self-centered, and nasty. Several times during the marriage, he threatened to physically harm himself. His wife, frightened for him, would call doctors and police to ensure he would not hurt himself (but how difficult).
In between these threats, he would become violent and menacing endangering the family. She would have him removed or ask him to leave. He would then tell the children he could not see them because Mom was not allowing it. The children would get upset. He would tell the wife he was going to hurt himself. Mom would feel guilty and allow him back. This happened over and over again.
If you have experienced this type of situation or know someone who has, please seek the help of a professional to have tools to extract you and your children from this incredibly unhealthy situation and cycle. This pattern, of course, also applied to the Wife manipulating the Husband. There is help both legally and psychologically to move to a healthier, happier, more peaceful existence.